Let’s be real, decisions can be rough!
I know this firsthand.
I seriously used to waffle over every decision, big and small. I’m talking everything...including which socks I should wear! No joke friend.
After doing years of mindset work, indecisiveness no longer controls my actions. Instead, my indecision is now a signal for me to check in with myself and ask, “what’s the matter love?” in my very best Brooke Castillo impersonation.
AND...I want you to be able to make that switch as well!
Why? Because if you don’t deal with your indecision, your business growth will stall. In fact, by not making a decision, you are deciding to STAY where you are. If you are like I was just a few years ago, staying is NOT what you want!
So, how can you become more decisive so your indecision doesn’t lead to stress and anxiety?
Remind yourself that you are the one who assigns meaning to a decision
2 steps to stop overthinking
Step 1 to becoming more decisive and overthinking LESS is to stop assigning such weighty meaning to every decision you have to make.
Your struggle to make a decision comes from the fact that you think your decision is either right or wrong, good or bad. You tie your decisions to what other “might” think of you and stay stagnant out of fear. The truth of the matter is that there are not right or wrong decisions. Nothing is all good or all bad. If you were traveling from NY to CA there are a MILLION different routes you can take. Some will be longer than others. Some will be more direct than others. But the best route will be the one that gets you to CA.
Step 2-Rewire your beliefs about your ability to make a decision.
I’m sure you’ve said things like…
I’m stuck.
I’m struggling.
I’m overwhelmed.
I’m so stressed.
We all have.
These are not just casual statements about how you are feeling. These are identities you are assigning yourself. These identities make it feel impossible to make a decision and can lead to some major overthinking paralysis.
When you say “I’m stuck”, your brain creates a picture of you being stuck. (My picture is of me with my feet stuck in mud) Your entire demeanor changes. Your brain then takes that and internalizes it and in an effort to automate your thinking (to save energy) it digs that thought pattern deeper and deeper into your cognition. Which makes it harder and harder for you to make a decision...since you are “stuck”.
Instead of telling yourself “I’m stuck” or “I’m overwhelmed”...I want you to say, “I feelstuck” or “I feel overwhelmed”. Your brain will recognize the feeling as something that is temporary and won’t automate that.
Once you’ve replaced your saying of “I’m stuck” with “I feel stuck”, I want you to take it one step further by using the word AND.
So instead of, “I want to book 3 more clients this month, but I’m not sure how” say…
I want to book 3 more clients this month, AND I am not sure how to do that yet.
This simple shift moves you from fixed mindset to growth mindset which will make it easier for your actions to follow!
Your homework this week:
Start redirecting those thoughts so you can start making decisions and moving forward in your biz!
Are you a fellow overthinker? If so, let me know how things are going AFTER making these simple switches!
